Hi MattyBoy my friend.
Well, well, well, what an interesting topic...
. Still after 27 years (married) I have my hobbies intact and alive. No special secret or else. As other fellow members get different points of view ( as they commented before), I think, at least in my case, negotiation and some psychology...
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For example, when we travel I discuss first the destinations...( of course, some sea water smell places included. At least one, or two, or three...jajaja. And some without and really inland places for her. Some times we agree and go together, others negotiate, and others we split to different places.
Included in negotiations: Shipspotting, naval or maritime museums, naval memorials or else for me...
and...shopping centers, malls, churches, museums, or else for her...
That means that some days (vacation or just trips )abroad we are kilometers away from each other doing what we both like. Simple. I enjoy my hobbies and she enjoy hers...
You know what I hate more, walking down the street watching shops windows and each 5 minutes..."wait, wait, wait for me 1 minute Im going inside to see something"...( that famous 1 minute inside the shop in real time is no less than 15 to 20, minimun...
) And thats the life my friend. What else you can do but just wait outside. But...when negotiations come to the table, I remember her the total time I was stand outside hundreds of shops waiting...
and thats it.
So finally, the answer to your main question is NO. Its your hobby, but negotiates and applies some psychology. For sure she has her own hoobies too.
The best for you my friend.
MBregards.
ventuari