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Offline MattB

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Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« on: July 17, 2017, 07:26:36 PM »
Hey all,

So i was wondering if any of you have given something up that you really liked for a lady?

Looking to put this Shipspotting malarkey on hold for a while if not indefinitely. Besides, we are geeks are we not & most, if not all women, think we are a bit weird.

Advice needed please


Regards,

Offline husni

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #1 on: July 17, 2017, 08:06:46 PM »
Behind a great man there is a great woman

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #2 on: July 17, 2017, 08:12:10 PM »
Hmmm...

Maybe the reverse is also true:

"Behind a big loser, "cherchez la femme!" - she may be the one responsible for his failure..."

Just a thought...

Best regards all (and keep your pictures coming in, please!),

Jose
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Offline Captain Ted

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #3 on: July 17, 2017, 08:18:58 PM »
A smart woman never would ask you to give something up !!! :) :)
in other words,,if you have a woman who wants that,,,may be you have the wrong woman
NOW!!!,,,if we could get rid of the sailors,,how safe shipping would be !!!!!!!!

Offline Jens Boldt

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #4 on: July 17, 2017, 09:29:22 PM »
Well, you are who you are and you do what you do - that's the package she gets. If she can't accept that then good riddance. At least that's the way I handle such things ;D

I completely agree with the Captain here...

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #5 on: July 18, 2017, 03:36:45 AM »
Simple answer to your question.....NOPE..!
A one way street usually leads to a dead end or edge of a cliff with virtually nowhere to turn around.
A relationship has a much better chance at surviving on a two way street.

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #6 on: July 18, 2017, 05:57:47 AM »
Here's one bad piece of advice, based on a song by a band called "Airbourne":

"Women come and go
They never do remain
They take more than they give
But it's man who's to blame"

Choose a woman. Ships remain, but a woman will be gone.  ;D

Offline victor radio74

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #7 on: July 18, 2017, 07:53:33 AM »
Lucky you,at my 69 I would like to be in that dilemma
Cheers!

Offline Phil English

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #8 on: July 18, 2017, 08:16:33 AM »
I already have pretty much. About 25 years ago.  :)


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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #9 on: July 18, 2017, 09:12:06 AM »
my wife likes ships...

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #10 on: July 18, 2017, 08:12:10 PM »
Hi MattyBoy my friend.

Well, well, well, what an interesting topic... :). Still after 27 years (married) I have my hobbies intact and alive. No special secret or else. As other fellow members get different points of view ( as they commented before), I think, at least in my case, negotiation and some psychology... ;D 8).

For example, when we travel I discuss first the destinations...( of course, some sea water smell places included. At least one, or two, or three...jajaja. And some without and really inland places for her. Some times we agree and go together, others negotiate, and others we split to different places.

Included in negotiations: Shipspotting, naval or maritime museums, naval memorials or else for me... ::) and...shopping centers, malls, churches, museums, or else for her... 8)

That means that some days (vacation or just trips )abroad we are kilometers away from each other doing what we both like. Simple. I enjoy my hobbies and she enjoy hers...

You know what I hate more, walking down the street watching shops windows and each 5 minutes..."wait, wait, wait for me 1 minute Im going inside to see something"...( that famous 1 minute inside the shop in real time is no less than 15 to 20, minimun... ???)  And thats the life my friend. What else you can do but just wait outside. But...when negotiations come to the table, I remember her the total time I was stand outside hundreds of shops waiting... ;D and thats it.

So finally, the answer to your main question is NO. Its your hobby, but negotiates and applies some psychology. For sure she has her own hoobies too.

The best for you my friend.
MBregards.
ventuari

Offline Jeff Thoreson

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #11 on: July 19, 2017, 03:20:18 AM »
The correct answer to this is NO!

If she wants you to give it up, she's the problem.

Offline Bob Scott

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #12 on: July 19, 2017, 08:50:50 AM »
If your woman wants you to give up your hobby, you've got the wrong woman. However, if your hobby has become an obsession, she may have a point

Offline Mrs. D

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #13 on: July 20, 2017, 12:51:57 AM »
Hi MattyBoy  :)

As a woman I would say that Captain Ted and several others are right. I have been happily married for 13 years now and we both kept our hobbies. I never asked my husband to make a choice between me and his hobbies just he has never asked me to stop mine or chose between him and them.

ventuari gave some very smart advice too. Everything that you are including your hobbies are the parts of you that make you YOU (if that makes sense). They are what made you attractive to her in the first place. If you eliminate all that then you will be a different person and it won't work out. You can't make a leopard change its spots, you just end up with unhappy people.

Best of luck to you and hope to still see you on here,

Mrs. D
I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination. ~Jimmy Dean~

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Re: Would you give up your hobby for a woman ?
« Reply #14 on: July 21, 2017, 10:46:45 AM »
I did give one up in the late sixties and stayed single so I could keep my hobbies. How ever still not sure if it was the right decision. it would have been a boring suburban existence.

 

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